Attendance is by invite or approved request only.

Doors will open this month at 7:30 to allow for attendees to set service and settle into the headspace.

Put your training and skills on display. Your own personal dynamics and protocols are encouraged.

• Call and response

• Position training

• Service related kinks

• Use this evening to the extent you wish

This strongly vetted party for Members, Their Guests, and Guests of the House. No area of the space will be restricted and all attendees should feel free to explore and play as they feel comfortable, abiding to the strict event protocol.

Attendees are not required to be attend partnered.

We will hold space for “Service Bottom” as well as “Service Tops” for protocol hours.

House Protocols in effect from 8:00-10:00PM

• s-Types should not speak unless directly spoken to

• Conversational dialog should be limited to only D-types

• s-Types should not make direct eye contact with anyone other then their chosen D-Types

• s-Types should perform Snack and Beverage Service as their chosen D-Types request. Oblige will provided some Hor d’Oeuvres type snacks. Attendees are encouraged to bring any service type snacks they desire. You are welcome to bring alcoholic beverages for this portion of the evening.

• D-types will not be permitted in the cafe area during protocol hours.

• Your personal protocols are encouraged on top of these

Come and be who you are, as you like, explore and enjoy the space. 

The use of hoods, gags, collars and leashes are strongly encouraged for these more private type of events.

An “off protocol” areas will be provided for s-Types to organize service and support other s-Types. These areas will be the office and the cafe area.

Friends, join us.

Ticket Link: With approved request

Floggers! Yay!
Can’t get enough, Curious want to try, Ready to learn more?
Join @Serene_X and @GoldenCourtney as they walk you through it all.
Finding your flow and building the scene

They will be covering:

• Flogging Styles with style

• All your safety stuff

• Types of floggers

• Preparing for play from the bottom perspective

• Emotional release

• Bedroom Play

• Florentine? How to begin

Want to try? Service tops will be on hand to help you experience throwing or receiving floggers

Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

Full day workshop - All experience levels welcome

Doesn't matter if you are just starting out or have been doing this stuff for years, The Dutchy and Oblige has something to offer you.

This special full day workshop offers:

• Meet and Greet with Lazarus & Blue

• Three complete rope classes never seen before at Oblige

• Book Signing and one FREE month of TheDuchy.com

Full day workshop - All experience levels welcome

Doesn't matter if you are just starting out or have been doing this stuff for years, The Dutchy and Oblige has something to offer you.

This special full day workshop offers:

• Meet and Greet with Lazarus & Blue

• Three complete rope classes never seen before at Oblige

• Private Rope Jam for attendees and staff with The Duchy

• Book Signing and one FREE month of TheDuchy.com

This class will focus on the bottoms experience, responsibility, and journey not only in rope but also in BDSM/kink practices. This is not a how to class on physical technique. This will be a discussion of why we do the things we do, why we want the things we want, the things we don’t want to talk about, and how to traverse a very nuanced environment both internally and externally. 

Class will be led by @GoldenCourtney and set up as lecture and discussion, drawing heavily on personal experience, education, and observation. 

All experience levels and all practitioners of rope/BDSM/kink are welcome. While this is about the bottom’s experience and perspective, this information is pertinent to others in the community that wish a greater understanding.

Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

The Burlesque Night has become one of our favorite performance events at Oblige. Fans and feather boas. Pasties and tassels. The seductive theatrical displays. The music. And of course, our performer's, The Deceptacunts. (A Variety of Detroit’s Favorite Burlesque Performers)

An hour-long show will set the stage for a kinky as fuck evening as only Oblige does.

Doors and Social Hour at 7:00

Performances @ 8:00

Play party until 1:00am

In this class @FerventLight will focus on energy basics for BDSM including Centring, Grounding, Shielding, Breath and the movement of energy.
We are going to talk about what energy is, how to practice and build your capacity for energetic play, and how we can use energy in kink.

This class is intended to be the first in a range of energy classes to provide a foundation on which to build upon. Future classes may be Chakras, Energy Orgasms, Tantra, and  Sex Magick depending upon feedback received.
A partner is not required for this class.

@FerventLight is a Reiki II Practitioner, Level I Path of the Quadishti, Tantra Practitioner, and Energy Orgasm Enthusiast that has been in the community working with energy in BDSM for over 3.5 years. They also co-facilitate our monthly discussion munch.

All skill levels are welcome to attend -Those new to energy will experience a taste of what energy is and how it can be played with to enhance their experiences in a way that creates a space of vulnerability, intimacy, and deep connection between partners.

Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

Our Figure Drawing & Rope Jam Sunday -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.

With the recent addition of "The Dungeon" at Oblige, attendees can now use the other half of the space to tie, play, socialize or relax durning the figure drawing.

This month there will be a figure-drawing opportunity at the Rope Jam. From 12:30-2:30, we will have models in rope for a few coordinated drawing sessions.
Three sessions will range from 20-30 minutes across different poses and different models. Oblige will have some materials on hand, but attendees should plan to bring their own sketching materials or tablets for digital sketches.

In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.

Our Open Play & Sunday Rope Jam -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.

In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.

Cost:

• Free for Members

• $10 for a Member’s Guest

• $20 for General Guests (50% for recent LEAP attendees)

No ticket sales at the door

Doors open at Noon. Come and go as you please until 5:00 PM.

FOUR years running now, our “Red” party is an annual event where attendees come out and use the idea of “Red”, and take it wherever they want. In years past that has been:

• Fire Fetishes

• Blood Play

• Red Asses

• Red Clothing, Lingerie, Shoes, Latex

• Finding true limits

This is the one Saturday a month we let the sadists & brats run wild. Use this beautiful space in all the ways it was intended. (Seriously though, NO running, brats)

Edge players are encouraged to check in with DMs or owners before Needle Play, Fire Play, or other Edgy scenes begin.

Exhibitionists and Voyeurs are welcome. Come enjoy this wickedly kinky evening with us.

Dress to impress

Not required but Wicked Weekends are the time to be “a little extra” with the attire and The Red Party has become famous for that little bit of extra flare. (Please don’t wear actual flares)

Doors at 8
Stay and play until 1 AM
Private members are welcome to watch the sun come up.

Part 2 of "But I wanna Do Rope too?!" Series
Presented by: @Feral_Darkling
Rigger: @ChiefDaddyJokes

This class is designed to explore the beautiful and connective art of shibari while addressing and embracing different physical limitations. Whether you’re a beginner or someone with experience, our goal is to create a safe, inclusive, and adaptive space where all bodies and abilities are celebrated.

Shibari is not just about the ties—it’s about connection, creativity, and communication. In this class, we’ll focus on techniques that can be adjusted to fit your needs, ensuring comfort, safety, and enjoyment for all participants. We’ll discuss modifications for common physical limitations, such as mobility challenges, flexibility differences, and strength constraints, while emphasizing body awareness and consent

Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

This month's discussion topic will be focused around BDSM nomenclature: What does it all mean?!? (Terms, phrases, acronyms)

This discussion is your chance to ask, anonymously, about all the BDSM/kink terms, phrases, acronyms you don’t know. Doesn’t matter if you’ve been around for years and have questions around some new words and terminology or if you are brand new to the scene and trying to figure it all out, this one is for all of us. 

If you desire a greater understanding or something, have experience to share, or just want to take in more community lead education, please join us.

Tickets HERE

“One of his greatest talents was empathy; no sadist can aspire to perfection without that diagnostic ability.” ~ Vernor Vinge

Class presented by @_MrNobody
“I am a sadist; I enjoy hurting people, watching them suffer, and knowing they’re in pain. Really think about that…how does that make you feel?"

This will be an In-person ONLY class. No livestream or recording.

In this class, we’re going to sit with and explore the idea of sadism. We’ll talk about what it is and different ways it can show up. We’ll also discuss where it comes from and whether you can learn to be sadistic if you’re not already. Most challenging, though, we’re going to think about the ethics of sadism, how we can justify it, and where we draw the line.

(I‘ll do my best not to make the class painfully boring.)

Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

Meet & Greet Event

• Meet your fellow attendees, presenters, performers, & artists

Symposium Classes/Workshops

• 16 Workshops/classes featuring international, national, regional and local Kink/BDSM & Rope Educators.

• Presenters: https://www.obligerope.org/boundless-presenters

• Two tracks: One dedicated to BDSM/fetish-influenced play and another dedicated to rope-influenced play.

• Choose your track or mix it up amongst your interests!

• Full class list: https://www.obligerope.org/boundless-class-list

Weekend Play Parties

• Friday: “Night of Strolling Performances”

• Saturday: "Fetish Fashion Dungeon Party”

Erotic Art Installation

• @VisualSanctity

• 70+ of original pieces will adorn the galleries, hallways, and every corner of Oblige.

Vendors

• Drool Apparel

• Oblige's Boutique Featuring items from local makers and other thing you may need.

This is the night to bring out the wild, unconventional, edgy play. It’s an evening designed for the kinkiest amongst us to feel uninhibited and unencumbered by what others think kink should look like. Edge players are encouraged to check in with DMs or owners before Needle Play, Fire Play, or other Edgy scenes begin.

Event Webpage HERE

Direct Ticketing Link HERE

Fetish Fashion Night is our Leather, Lace & Latex Night. Traditionally this is the night to be “a little extra” and enjoy your best fetish wear, whatever that may be.

Gas masks, Hoods, Chaps, Kilts, Tails, and Chains are heavily encouraged.

The entire Dungeon & Rope Room will be your runway and your playground

This is the one Saturday a month we open this private space for all you sadists and brats to run wild. (Seriously though Brats, NO RUNNING)

Exhibitionists and Voyeurs are welcome. Come enjoy this wickedly kinky evening with us.

Dress to impress- This is the night to be “A Little Extra”. Themed attire is preferred or “however you are comfortable”.  

Doors at 8
Stay and play until 1 AM
Private members are welcome to watch the sun come up.

Meet & Greet Event

• Meet your fellow attendees, presenters, performers, & artists

Symposium Classes/Workshops

• 16 Workshops/classes featuring international, national, regional and local Kink/BDSM & Rope Educators.

• Presenters: https://www.obligerope.org/boundless-presenters

• Two tracks: One dedicated to BDSM/fetish-influenced play and another dedicated to rope-influenced play.

• Choose your track or mix it up amongst your interests!

• Full Class list: https://www.obligerope.org/boundless-class-list

Weekend Play Parties

• Friday: “Night of Strolling Performances”

• Saturday: "Fetish Fashion Dungeon Party”

Erotic Art Installation

• @VisualSanctity

• 70+ of original pieces will adorn the galleries, hallways, and every corner of Oblige.

Vendors

• Drool Apparel

• Oblige's Boutique Featuring items from local makers and other thing you may need.

Our monthly Performance & Play evenings tend to be filled with theatrics, flare and amazing talent. This evening is expected to be nothing short of that. A lot of that in fact.

This is an evening for voyeurs and exhibitionist a like. Roam. Watch. Play as you wish.

Spanning “The Dungeon” and “The Rope Room”, guests are invite to stroll & watch and/or get involved & play, as they see fit throughout all 7,000 square feet of venue.

Come on out to enjoy the shows or become a part of it yourself.

Tickets HERE

Website Event Page HERE

A different “act” will start every 20-30 minutes throughout the space. Some overt. Some subtle. All matters of kink/BDSM performances will be on display.

Some Featured Performances:

• Impact Players

• Shibari Performers

• Pole Dancers

• Burlesque

• Fire players

• and More Kinky Shit.

Attendees are encouraged to play as they feel comfortable at any point in the evening, leaving others to wonder, what is part of the show and what’s not.

Doors and Social Hour at 7:00

Performances @8:00

Play party until 1:00am

Meet & Greet Event

• Meet your fellow attendees, presenters, performers, & artists

Symposium Classes/Workshops

• 16 Workshops/classes featuring international, national, regional and local Kink/BDSM & Rope Educators.

• Presenters: https://www.obligerope.org/boundless-presenters

• Two tracks: One dedicated to BDSM/fetish-influenced play and another dedicated to rope-influenced play.

• Choose your track or mix it up amongst your interests!

• Full class list: https://www.obligerope.org/boundless-class-list

Weekend Play Parties

• Friday: “Night of Strolling Performances”

• Saturday: "Fetish Fashion Dungeon Party”

Erotic Art Installation

• @VisualSanctity

• 70+ of original pieces will adorn the galleries, hallways, and every corner of Oblige.

Vendors

• Drool Apparel

• Oblige's Boutique Featuring items from local makers and other thing you may need.

“A sapphic and vampyric performance where bloodlust and gothic romance meet sharps and edge play.”

Featuring: Devour The Fruit ( @Pale_Mary & @femmeviscera )
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/devourthefruit/

Tickets HERE

Website Event Page

Our Performance & Play evenings @Oblige, are rooted in live erotic performance, focusing around BDSM. These performers are nothing if not erotic. Their performances, on and off stage, are that BDSM ledge and lore around Detroit.

Trigger Warning: Sharps will be used in this performance

Trigger Warning: There may be blood

Trigger Warning: There may be loud vocal outbursts reflection pain and/or pleasure

Doors and Social Hour at 7:00

Performances @ 8:00

Play party until 1:00am

Yep, It's a squirting class!!! (and sooooo much more) Presented by @Serene_X & @GoldenCourtney

We will be talking about vulva arousal, toys for these activities, tips and tricks for squirting and examples of how to induce extended, prolonged and multiple orgasms for vulva owners.

This is designed to be a partnered workshop. Ticket costs ($60) is for two people so bring a friend. If you would like to attend unpartnered to audit the class, email us at ObligeRope@gmail.com to find out how.

Lecture/demo/"see and do" style class structure. Those that wish to practice what they’ve learned should come fully prepared. (Towels, wet pads, pillows, lube)

Expect to leave this class with a better understanding of the vulva, it’s arousal and a physical techniques for prolonged pleasure.

Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

Attendance is by invite or approved request only.

Giving you what you’ve been asking for

Part 1 of "But I wanna Do Rope too?!" Series
Presented by: @robrogirl
Rope Receiver: @GroundRiot

If you do a google image search for ‘shibari’, you’ll find 90% of the pictures are of small flexible femme presenting people in stress positions in rope. You’ll see most of the riggers (if pictured) are masc, and easily manipulating their rope receivers. Just like other representations on social media, many people that enjoy rope do not fall into these categories.

This class is about some of the tips and tricks I’ve learned, as a smaller rigger, working with rope receivers of all shapes and sizes, with different levels of flexibility, and constraints. Can a 150 lb rigger suspend a 300+ lb rope receiver with transitions? Absolutely! Do we need to honor our constraints, do a little extra labbing, and think outside of the normal environment? Also true.

Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

A discussion on:
The moral implications/the ethics of BDSM/ Sexual fetishes

Why does informed consent matter when discussing morality? What are the circumstances a fetish could be unethical? 

What internal questions do you struggle with? How do we align our morality and human kindness with our kinks?

Come share your our own questions/thoughts.

Let’s talk it all through, share our experiences, help old and new friends find their path. 

Tickets HERE

Looks like there’s an extra Thursday in January, so why not celebrate with a bit of kinky fun?

No class this week! No formal performances. Instead, we’re bringing in some pizza, dragging all the furniture out, and having a good old-fashioned play party.

Play as you wish within the rules until midnight, this week.

Come as you are or dress as kinky as you like.

Tickets are available on the website on our LEAP page. (We are not making a special link for this one yet so just go with it)

Doors at 7 (not 6:00 this week!)

• Pizza to follow shortly after

• Stay and play until MIDNIGHT

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

Our Figure Drawing & Rope Jam Sunday -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.

With the recent addition of "The Dungeon" at Oblige, attendees can now use the other half of the space to tie, play, socialize or relax durning the figure drawing.

This month there will be a figure-drawing opportunity at the Rope Jam. From 12:30-2:30, we will have models in rope for a few coordinated drawing sessions.
Three sessions will range from 20-30 minutes across different poses and different models. Oblige will have some materials on hand, but attendees should plan to bring their own sketching materials or tablets for digital sketches.

In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.

Our Open Play & Sunday Rope Jam -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.

In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.

Cost:

• Free for Members

• $10 for a Member’s Guest

• $20 for General Guests (50% for recent LEAP attendees)

No ticket sales at the door

Doors open at Noon. Come and go as you please until 6:00 PM.

A slumber party in the dungeon. If you’ve ever wanted to spend the night chained down in the elevator or beneath a bunch of your friends in a full night cuddle pile, this is your chance. We will not be “closing” space or ending the party. (Clearly the overnight stay is optional)

Wrist bands at the door for members and approved attendees that wish to “sleep over” (or stay past 1AM)

A few extra rules for this event:

Overnight space is limited. 

Please reach out to us ahead of time and seek approval to sleep over. Email obligerope@gmail.com

If approved we recommend you bring our own pillow, blanket, and whatever else you may need for a restful nights sleep in the dungeon.

At 1:00 am we will be asking attendees without wristbands to “wind it down” and head out for the evening.

Doors at 8
Stay and play until 1 AM
Private members are welcome to watch the sun come up.

In this Shibari Basics class, @ChiefDaddyJokes and @UsagiMami delve beyond mere knots and ties. Shibari is an art form that creates a space of vulnerability, intimacy, and deep connection between partners. Whether you're a beginner or have some experience, this class will empower you to explore the emotional and physical aspects of Shibari.

Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

“The Dark Circus has arrived, for one night of wicked debauchery. Come join us as Leia the Clown corrupts all who dare come to see. Watch and be amazed… as Leia the Clown corrupts a starving beast into joining her menagerie.”

This performance by @-LeiaSkywalker- (Leia the Clown) & @CiemnyWolf (Her Mad Wolf) will set the stage for a kinky as fuck evening as only Oblige does.

Tickets HERE

Website Event Page

Our Performance & Play evenings @Oblige, are rooted in live erotic performance with BDSM and fun at the foundation of them all. This month’s performers are nothing if not erotic & fun. 🫢

After the performance feel free to stay and play. Explore “The Dungeon” as it was intended or Enjoy “The Rope Room” and find all of its hidden features. 

Doors and Social Hour at 7:00

Performances @ 8:00

Play party until 1:00am

This week we continue our erotic rope bondage journey. This week @Serene_X and @GoldenCourtney will be focusing on motion and intension as we manipulate bodies and apply rope in a way to form classic shibari shapes. Those new to rope will leaner a bit more of what’s possible while experienced practitioners can take a look back at some playful ties that can be re-introduced to your rope scenes.

Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

Celebrating our Four year anniversary with a new experience for some, refresher for others and hopefully some new tricks for the more experienced in the room.

In this class @Flynn_Racer and @-emmie- will focus on minimalistic ties used to start your rope bondage journey or to add to your list of “go to” fun things you can do quickly for floor play, warm ups or add another layer to your dynamic rope scene. With all these ties we will focus on rope handling, flow and holding tensions to increase the confidence and connection for both the person applying rope and the person receiving rope.

Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7

Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00

Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed

A discussion on:
The moral implications/the ethics of BDSM/ Sexual fetishes

Why does informed consent matter when discussing morality? What are the circumstances a fetish could be unethical? 

What internal questions do you struggle with? How do we align our morality and human kindness with our kinks?

Come share your our own questions/thoughts.

Let’s talk it all through, share our experiences, help old and new friends find their path. 

Tickets HERE